好郁闷哟。。。

今天突然心情坏到了最低点， 大多时间都在对着电脑荧幕发呆。。

Predictions by Adam Khoo: The expats will rule Singapore

A very interesting and revealing article that Singaporeans and their kids should read .... SO TRUE!!!

Adam Khoo: The expats will rule Singapore
Posted by admin 28 January, 2010

I have a prediction. My prediction is that in a couple of years, the expatriates (from China, India, US etc...) will rule Singapore. They will increasingly take on more leadership roles of CEOs, directors, heads of organizations, award winners etc... If you observe closely, it is already happening now.

Last year's top PSLE (Primary School Leaving Exam) student is a China National. Most of the deans list students and first class honors students in the local universities are foreigners and more and more CEOs, even that of government link corporations are expats. The top players in ourNational teams are expats.

As a Singaporean, I am not complaining. I think that in a meritocratic society like Singapore, it is only fair that the very best get rewarded, no matter their race, religion or nationality. Like Lee Kwan Yew said, I rather have these talented and driven people be on our team contributing to our nation than against us from their home country. The question I have been asking is, 'why are the expats beating the crap out of Singaporeans?'

What I noticed is that these expats have a very important quality that many Singaporeans (especially the new Y generation lack). It is a quality that our grandfathers and great-grandfathers (who came from distant lands) had that turned Singapore from a fishing village to the third richest country in the world (according to GDP per capita). Unfortunately, I fear this quality is soon disappearing from the new generation of Singaporeans.

This quality is the HUNGER FOR SUCCESS and the FIGHTING SPIRIT!!!

Expats who come here today have the same tremendous HUNGER for success that our grandfathers had. They are willing to sacrifice, work hard and pay the price to succeed. They also believe that no one owes them a living and they have to work hard for themselves. They also bring with them the humility and willingness to learn.


Take the case of Qui Biqing, the girl from Qifa Primary school who topped the whole of Singapore in last year's PSLE with a score of 290. When she came to Singapore 3 years ago from China, she could hardly speak a word of English and didn't even understand what a thermometer was. Although she was 10 years old, MOE recommended she start at Primary 2 because of her lack of English proficiency. After appealing, she managed to start in Primary 3. While most Singaporeans have a head start of learning English at pre-school at the age of 3-4 years old, she only started at age 10. Despite this handicapped, she had the drive to read continuously and practice her speaking and writing skills, eventually scoring an A-star in English!

This hunger and drive can also be seen in the workforce. I hate to say this but in a way, I sometimes think expats create more value than locals.

Expats are willing to work long hours, go the extra mile, are fiercely loyal to you and don't complain so much. They also come a lot more qualified and do not ask the moon for the remuneration. Recently, I placed an ad for a marketing executive. Out of 100+ resumes, more than 60% came from expats. While locals fresh grads are asking for $2,500+ per month, I have expats with masters degrees from good universities willing to get less than $2,000! They know that if they can come in and learn and work hard, they will eventually climb up and earn a lot more. They are willing to invest in themselves, pay the price for future rewards. Sometimes I wonder how some of the locals are going to compete with this.


Of course, this is just a generalization. There ARE definitely some Singaporeans who create lots of value and show fighting spirit.

Unfortunately, I have found that more and more young Singaporeans lack this hunger for success. Instead, they like to complain, blame circumstances and wait for others to push them. Some hold on to the attitude that the world owes them a living. I shake my head when I see local kids nowadays complain that they don't have the latest handphones, branded clothes and games. While I acknowledge that the kids of today are much smarter and well informed than I was at their age (my 4 year old daughter can use my Macbook computer and my iphone), I find that they lack the resilience and tenacity they need to survive in the new economy. Some kids nowadays tend to give up easily once they find that things get tough and demand instant gratification. When they have to work first to get rewards later, many tend to lack the patience to follow through.

So, how did this happen? Why is our nation of hardworking, hungry fighters slowly becoming a nation of complaining softies? I think the problem is that life in Singapore has been too good and comfortable. Kids today have never seen hunger, poverty, war and disasters. What makes it worse is that parents nowadays give kids everything they want and over protect them from hardship and failure. Parents often ask me why their kids lack the motivation to study and excel. My answer to them is because they already have everything! Giving someone everything they want is the best way to kill their motivation. What reason is there for them to fight to become the
best when they are already given the best from their parents without having to earn it?


It reminds me of the cartoon movie MADAGASCAR where Alex the Lion and his animal friends were born and raised in the Central Park Zoo. They were well taken care of and provided with processed food and an artificial jungle. When they escaped to Africa, they found that they could barely survive in the wild with the other animals because they had lost their instincts to fight and hunt for food. They could only dance and sing.

I see the same thing in the hundreds of seminars and training programmes I conduct. I see increasing more and more expats attending my Wealth Academy and Patterns of Excellence programme in Singapore. Not surprisingly, they are always the first to grab the microphone to answer and ask questions.

While many of the locals come in late and sit at the back. The expats (especially those from India and China) always sit at the front, takenotes ferociously and stay back way after the programme is over to ask questions. I feel ashamed sometimes when I ask for volunteers to ask questions, and the Singaporeans keep quiet, while the foreigners fight for the opportunity.


For my "I Am Gifted!' programme for students, I have the privilege to travel & conduct it in seven countries (Singapore, Indonesia, Hong Kong, China, Malaysia etc) and see students from all over. Is there a big difference in their attitude and behavior? You bet!

Again, I feel really sad that in Singapore, most students who come are usually forced by their parents to come and improve themselves. Some parents even bribe them with computer games and new handphones to attend.

During the course, some adopt the 'I know everything' attitude and lack the interest to succeed until I kick their butts. It is so different when I go to Malaysia, Indonesia and once in India. The kids there ask their parents to send them to my programme. They clap and cheer enthusiastically when the teachers enter the room and participate so willingly when lessons are on. I still scratch my head and wonder what happened to my fellow Singaporeans to this day.

So mark my words, unless the new generation of Singaporeans wake up and get out of their happy over protected bubble and start fighting for their future, the expats (like our great grandfathers) will soon be the rulers
of the country. At the rate at which talented and hungry expats are climbing up, our future prime minister may be an Indian or China PR or may even be an Ang Moh!

女人变心前会有的反常举动！

行为一：她不会再缠着问你：“你爱我吗，爱我吗？”，管你不爱不爱她了，反正她不爱你了。  

行为二：她不会再穿着新买的衣服在你面前故意晃来晃去，只为了博你欣赏的拥抱。  
行为三：她的话语越来越少，不再像喜鹊一样围绕你左右问东问西，甚至连和你吵嘴的兴趣都没有。  
行为四：她已不在你面前流眼泪了。女人的眼泪可以征服一切，这是种武器，但却唯独不想征服你。  
行为五：她会和你并排走路，但不再挽你的胳膊，如以前像个树獭一样挂着，总会与你保持一米之距，心里的距离必然产生物理的距离。  
行为六：她的手机经常关机，不再如以前一样24小时为你开机。等你的信息来电，她已不在牵挂你，也不需要你的牵挂了。因为爱是24小时长长的牵挂，爱有多深, 牵挂就有多长。  
行为七：她开始喜欢孤独如水已如帛，帛在水中自含蓄的心境时，她宁肯让心孤独也不愿意你来陪伴，是从心底的排斥。  
行为八：她的眼眸瞳仁里，没有了你的影子，即使你站在了她的对面，眉目之间的冷漠取代了往昔的妩媚的风情。媚态之于女人是由情而生。  
行为九：她不在在意跟你通话的异性是谁，不在关心你的身边挽着谁，妒忌是爱的氧气，她穿越了妒忌，淹灭了爱火。  
行为十：她在你每月只能挣几十块钱的时候爱上你，那是真的爱了，却在你事业通达的时候离开你，那也是真的不爱了。

学着点吧！男人！！！

男人应该这样 ^^


男人应该这样男人，请你在即将入睡之前，多看一眼睡在身边的女人 看一看她是否睡得安然 是一脸幸福的平静，还是紧皱双眉，眼角带着湿润 因为，你这一眼，也许就可以注定一个结局 如果你的女人背对着你睡，请一定转过她的身子，抚平她的眉 当你没有顾及的睡去，也许，你的女人已一夜无眠，泪早已浸湿你给她枕着的手臂 也许她已经胡思乱想了一夜，想了许多也许根本不可能的事情 你睡得安稳，她却也许已经自嘲了一夜，当你醒来时，她已心灰意冷 ?` 也许你们会分开的让你莫名其妙，其实只不过是因为她感觉到了不安全 女人永远是疑心病最重的动物，少了一点点的温存，就会不安到天明 当你满足的睡醒，也请你仔细的看看身边沉默的女人 你会发现，她今天化了比平时更浓的妆，却仍遮掩不住黑黑的眼圈 或者低头看看枕巾，那里早已经潮湿了一大块 这个时候，千万不要傻傻的说她浓妆不好看 更不要像笨蛋一样的问她枕巾怎么湿了 请给她一个拥抱，也许那颗即将冰冷的心会重新温暖 不需要多，就一个拥抱 女人需要你每时每刻的注意，也许会累点，但那是她在乎你的表达方式 千万不要说她淘气不听话，或表现得很厌烦，她会很受伤 脆弱的女人，永远徘徊在不安的边缘 ! 拉她一把便是天堂，推她一把就坠入地狱 男人，你懂了吗？ 男人，请在睡前再看她一眼，给她一个最深情的晚安吻，拥她入眠.

我是什么人呢？？？

“自己人” 与 “外人”

跟着你的意识，思路一直在想这个问题.....什么是“自己人”？什么又是“外人”呢？
本是“自己人”却无奈成为了“外人”，而“外人”却不喜欢成为“自己人”。
俩人的差别竟然如此之大，“外人”无法感受到“自己人”内心里的无奈与挣扎，而“自己人”也无法体会到 “外人”的叹息与妥协。
唉.....到了最后，里里外外都不是人...........

人。。为什么终喜欢逃避呢？

[逃避 - 只是说明你懦弱]

香烟爱上火柴就注定被伤害…不要轻易说爱, 许下的承诺就是欠下的债…老鼠对猫说我爱你, 猫说你走开, 老鼠流泪走开, 谁也没有看见老鼠走后猫也流了一滴泪, 其实有一种爱叫放弃… 一只风筝一辈子只会为一根线冒险… 女人善变的是脸, 男人善变的是心…在爱的世界里没有谁对不起谁, 只有谁不懂的珍惜谁… 叶子的离开是因为风的追求, 还是树的不挽留？